More income, same stress? Here’s why

You got the raise. You’re earning more. But somehow, you’re still financially stretched. If anything, you’re more anxious about money than you were before.

You’re not alone, and you’re also not doing it wrong: you’re just in a sneaky cycle that most people fall into when their income increases.

It’s called lifestyle inflation.

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Lifestyle inflation is what happens when your expenses increase as your income increases. And while there’s nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy your money, things get tricky when every raise you get goes straight into upgraded living costs.

Think about it:

You move into a bigger place.
You finally get the car you wanted.
You eat out more.
You upgrade your phone, your wardrobe, your weekends.

None of it feels extreme in the moment. But over time, your expenses quietly catch up with or even overtake your salary. And just like that, your financial stress stays the same.

What makes lifestyle inflation so dangerous?

When lifestyle inflation goes unchecked, it can:

Wipe out your ability to save or build wealth.
Keep you stuck in the paycheck-to-paycheck cycle.
Leave you vulnerable to debt during emergencies.
Make you dependent on your current salary just to stay afloat.

In other words, you might have a better job and more money coming in, but you’re still in the same financial position as before. Just with nicer things.

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We upgrade because we want to feel like we’re doing well. Like we’re "keeping up." And social media makes it so much harder to ignore what everyone else is spending on: new homes, luxury skincare, weekend getaways, soft life aesthetics.

But what you’re seeing online may not be real, and even if it is, it may not be financially healthy. So how do you stop lifestyle inflation from running the show?

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One: Stop and evaluate

Try a no-buy or low-buy month.
Make a list of your fixed expenses.
Start noticing what’s essential, and what’s driven by habit, comparison, or pressure.

Two: Start saving now

Don’t wait for the "perfect" income. Start with what you can (even 2% of your income), and automate it. Next time you get a raise, save at least 50% of the increase before your lifestyle adjusts to it.

Three: Delay upgrades by 30 days

Thinking of a new phone, couch, or car? Wait 30 days. If you still want it, go for it. If not, that money might be better put towards something long-term.

Four: Create a “soft life” fund

You don’t need to say no to the good stuff. But you do need a plan for it. Budget for joy and luxury in a way that won’t sabotage your peace.

Five: Reflect on your goals and values

Ask yourself:

Am I spending in line with who I want to be?
What would my younger self prioritise?
Am I building the life I want, or just spending to prove something?

When you know what matters to you, it becomes easier to say no to what doesn’t.

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Remember

You deserve to enjoy your money — but not at the cost of your peace or financial freedom. Lifestyle inflation is normal. But it doesn’t have to keep you stuck. The next time your income goes up, pause. Make a plan. Spend in a way that builds you, not just your image.

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